I’m not a Victim | OOTD Altar’d State


Dress – Altar’d State | Bag – Coach | Bracelet- Kate Spade | Necklace – Le Tote | Mules – Target

Emotions run the human mind. It is the practice of controlling those emotions with ration and logic that creates a society of people who can respectively coexist.

My generation has been fed the lies of victimization, and I want to address this topic because it is an unpopular one, but definitely a topic in dire need of salvaging.

All of my life, I have been taught that there is an “oppressor” and that a lot of things that happen are just “life” and not my fault. It’s an easy way to think. It makes it easier to explain when there are forces of life that just inflict suffering on you. Couldn’t pass that test? The teacher must be biased in some way. You couldn’t lose weight? It’s because the industry force feeds us standards that can’t be achieved but also gives us fewer healthy options. Unhappy with life? Must be a chemical imbalance.

Yes, some of these situations are true. They sometimes are completely true.

But believing this way automatically causes you to automatically shut down. By victimizing yourself, you don’t have any choices anymore. You are your own limitations.

By victimizing yourself, you can easily place the blame and anger and frustration that comes along with it on someone or something else. And of course, you cannot control other people or circumstances. But you can control yourself.

I think the way we put our emotions and egos on a pedestal is the main reason why we as a society tend to victimize ourselves. If we are a victim we need saving. And we can’t always save ourselves.

We apply it in relationships – that’s why I believe a lot of relationships are ruined. We try to beat the other person, try to overcome the oppression, we believe that they are someone to challenge rather than a partner to join forces with.

My generation in particular has seen this rise of being told we could do whatever we want by virtually doing nothing. We don’t take responsibility. There are a few of us that do believe in hard work, but from what I’ve seen, the vast majority are stuck in a world of reality but trained to think we can do whatever we want, so we feel stuck. We feel oppressed. Depressed. And most of all, we have become numb to life. Life just happens now.

What is the point of routines? What is the point of working in a field we never thought we’d be in? We start spiraling down into this rabbit hole of depression, wondering “why me,” pulling a victim card. And it’s not all our fault – we were taught that we are all special and that we should be able to do whatever we want, but then never told how to achieve that. We forget the important things in life, such as family values, religion, community, in sacrifice for this sense of self-purpose, but more in the sense of a egotistical dream of becoming someone important but without doing anything to achieve it.

I am guilty myself. Sometimes I find myself wondering, “Why can’t I just stay home, have enough money for a luxury life, and not having to work?” But never knowing what exactly would get me to that point.

I want to change that mindset. You can do anything, but only if you take responsibility for finding a realistic way to do that.

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Green Spring | OOTD

Forever 21

Romper (similar here) – Forever 21 | Bag – Coach | Shoes – Naturalizer

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Green is one of the colors I have been told to avoid, as my skin tone has a reddish warm to nuteral undertone. But here I am, parading around in this green pastel romper! Haha!

Forever 21 will always been my go-to for affordable outfits, and this is no exception. Rompers are just so easy. Like dresses, they are an all inclusive outfit. The only downside is going to the bathroom is a chore in these, as you have to literally get completely naked just to use the toilet. But it’s worth it!

I was a little tipsy during this shoot, I have to admit. I guess that’s why I look so happy though?

 

Nicoco

Completing My Capsule Wardrobe | YOINS Wishlist

As minimalism has started to take over my way of thinking, I’ve had the liberation of tossing all of my wardrobe and starting over with a capsule wardrobe. Over the past month, I’ve been collecting pieces that I can wear all through the spring and summer and match with other pieces I have easily. The main idea of the capsule wardrobe is that it is only pieces you love, no fillers, no “just because I bought it” pieces. So I’ve been slowly curating my closet and picking clothing items I love and would wear over and over again this spring and summer season.

Lately I’ve been finding some high quality but affordable pieces at YOINS, an online shop. The name YOINS apparently comes from “Your inspiration.”  They sell a lot of Tumbler-looking clothes, but I was able to find pieces that would definitely fit into my floral/cute style of wardrobe. There were so many cute dresses, tops and jewelry pieces that I liked, but these are my top three!

YOINS Wish List

Blue Floral Playsuit

If you follow my Instagram (@nicoc.o) you’ll know that right now I’ve been really into rompers and play suits. This cute YOINS blue bell sleeved romper is perfect for Texas summer weather (which seems to last until November), so I know I will get a lot of use out of it!

Minimalistic White Tee

The t-shirt on the top right is also a great staple to have in a Texas capsule wardrobe because it is loose and will match with shorts, skirts, and jeans. I think it will also be easy to layer, which is suuuuper important here.

Brown/Gold Choker Necklace

Lastly, my YOINS wishlist has to include a minimalistic gold necklace, because it is so timeless and perfect for the choker trend without being too noticeable. For my personal style (cute, girly, simple), I like to keep my jewelry clean and delicate.

All of the above mentioned items are also ON SALE right now, so be sure to check them out at YOINS, along with all of the other cute items the site has! One thing I love about them already is their great sale prices! 

I was lucky enough to be given the opportunity to try out these items, so stay tuned for the unboxing and review!

Nicoco

OOTD | The Elephant Dress

OOTD: Tunic Dress – The Elephant Pants ( sold out since they were on Shark Tank, but many other similar pieces sold on their site https://www.theelephantpants.com )

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Texas can’t make up its mind on whether winter is done. These pictures are actually from a few weeks ago, when we went to Rockwall, and it was summer weather, up in the high 70’s, low 80’s  (okay, I know that’s not summer for Texas, but for a native Pennsylvanian, that’s summer!). But of course, now in March, it’s back down in the 40’s. Makes a lot of sense, eh?

This tunic dress was so perfect for the breezy cool wind on that hot day, though. I can’t wait to wear it more often! And yes, The Elephant Pants just appeared on Shark Tank a week ago, and no, I didn’t  buy this dress because of Shark Tank! I actually heard about this company through a friend, and I fell in love with their designs. Most of the clothes they sell is very colorful, but I opted for this dress because it would match more accessories. The material is well-made, and part of the profits for this dress are donated to help elephants in need in Thailand. It’s also perfect for the relentless Texas sun because it covers a lot of skin (hence less burning) and is still very breezy and breathable.

Lately, I’ve been trying to organize my life and try to be at peace with myself, and one of the things I decided to do was to take up a capsule wardrobe.  Essentially, a capsule wardrobe is a wardrobe made for a season that is only the best pieces that you would always wear, the ones that give you confidence when you wear them. Think about it, how many times do you put on an outfit in a rush and then when you get out of the house, you just feel like shit because it wasn’t the greatest combination or you’re wearing something that makes you feel insecure? The capsule wardrobe prevents those situations. You should be able to pull out any outfit and have it match and feel confident. This means buying things that fit your personal style, buying things that you will actually use, and also things that are of high quality.

For the next few posts, I will be featuring my capsule wardrobe. I threw out almost everything (ok, I donated it), and started over. This dress was one of the first pieces in the wardrobe for Spring/Summer.

What do you think of the concept of the capsule wardrobe? Be sure to check out the colorful and beautiful pieces from The Elephant Pants!

 

xo Nicoco

Oversized Sweater Weather

OOTD: Taupe Oversized Sweater – H&M | Velvet Skirt – Zara Kids | Boots – A.N.A. | Crossbody Nude Purse – Coach

The weather has been grey and rainy, but with this oversized sweater, I’m prepared to stay cozy! I think this looks a little schoolgirl again… maybe I have an obsession? This H&M sweater was actually a last deal steal, but here is a similar version here. Oversized clothing is great because you can layer it with other pieces, but it’s also a win for me because I’m still not at my fit version of myself… so it can hide a lot! Do I have a pot belly under this sweater? Maybe. Am I wearing a shirt underneath it? Who knows.

It’s hard to stay on top of the “winter” trends here in Dallas because the weather is constantly switching between spring and winter lately. Yesterday I walked out of my house in a full on winter outfit complete with boots to find it was 70 degrees outside. Today I walked out in flats and it was back into winter mode and I tearfully regretted my outfit decisions all day at the office while wrapped up in a blanket. 

Either way, I’m going to keep wearing the sweaters until it’s too hot, because they really help me stay comfortable!

Nicoco

OOTD: Timeless Florals

Dress & Sweater cardigan: Forever 21 | Bag – Coach | Boots – Cliffs by White Mt. | Jacket – Urban Republic

Doesn’t it seem weird to talk about florals in winter? Well, as I was freezing my butt off for this shoot, I do believe that you can still pull off florals in colder weather, as long as you have a sweater, boots, and a jacket to wear over it outside, of course!

This look is inspired by the innocence of a school girl, the confidence of a city walker, and the dreamer of a summer-lover, and the practicality of the everyday woman. The dress and cardigan combo is a classic that won’t go out of style for years to come, and the boots and knee socks add a touch of winter to it. The nude cross body bag is a piece you will probably see a lot of in the coming OOTD posts, mostly because it’s become my everyday bag now. It’s the bag I’ve been wanting for so long! Perfect size, great color, and absolutely versatile with every outfit.

This shoot was done in Pennsylvania, actually in Harrisburg, the capitol. And I was so brave out in the cold weather, but for some reason now that I’m back in Dallas, I’m a wimp again and I’m not taking the weather well, even when its 40 F outside most of the time, which is not nearly as cold as it was that day. Speaking of PA, my lovely little sister did this shoot with me.

Nicoco

 

All Velvet

OOTD: Velvet Skater Dress- Forever 21 | Bag – Calvin Klein | Shoes – Report

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I’ve really taken a liking to velvet and I’m glad it’s back in, because there’s just something about it that makes me want to wear it. It’s soft, shiny, sophisticated. I think it makes a great accent piece, and in this case, its the star of the show. Honestly, I like to keep my outfits simple, and this is about as simple as it gets. The velvet texture is the most valuable part of this look! Skater dresses, or A-line dresses, have always fit my inverted triangle body type the best. It flares just slightly at the hips, giving an illusion of wider hips, thus keeping my body in proportion.

Next week I’ll be traveling back east for the first time in over a year, and at first I was nervous, but I’m definitely ready. I’m looking forward to spending the holidays with my family, hanging out with friends, and doing tons of outfit shoots with my younger sister, the previous photographer of my blog.

And that means I have to be “on-point” all the time there. Every outfit has to be photoshoot worthy. I’m excited to dress my best everyday like I used to!

I’ll definitely be incorporating more velvet into my outfits, so watch out for that!

xo Nicoco

OOTD: Winter Weekend

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OOTD: Top – Dress from Forever 21 that I cut into a shirt | Velvet skirt – Zara Kids | Leather-Tweed jacket – Forever 21 | Purse – London Fog

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It’s kind of sad that this is what I consider winter now. Just wait, in a few weeks when I’m back up North all bundled in a heavy jacket and earmuffs, scarf and gloves, I’ll be reminded what winter is really like. I featured this skirt last year, but at the time velvet was not trending as much as it is now, so I thought I would bring it back! I love how it becomes an accent piece, making any plain outfit more edgy. I’ve been trying to find more velvet pieces, but it seems that it is very much an accessory type of fashion (eg. hair pieces, hats, bags).

Just wanted to quickly share an outfit inspiration post. I am working on a much longer post which should be out by Tuesday. It’s skincare related, so be ready!

 

xo Nicoco

OOTD: Warmth of Dusk

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OOTD: Dress – H&M | Bag – Skinnydip London | Shoes – Predictions | Sunnies – Guess

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It’s cooled down significantly now, but this outfit coordinate was actually from a few weeks ago when it was still hot outside. Hence the short sleeves!

I know I’ve talked about this before, but do you ever feel like the sunsets hold so much meaning in our lives? It’s the small window of time before night falls, before the mind is consumed with thoughts, when the world is silent, if only for a moment. Especially here in Carrollton DART train station, it looks like the ends of the Earth at dusk.

It symbolizes the “drop,” where we fall in between what is real and what is not. The place in between reality and fabrications of the mind. For a lot of people, their mind is awake the most when the world is quieter, which is usually at night. For myself, I slip into a false sense of reality at night sometimes. There is something about the setting sun that makes you appreciate all that is around you, and you start to believe that maybe the world is a beautiful place, as is the world inside your mind.

In the same way, it is important to appreciate the moments of beauty. It reminds you why you are living, at the most basic level. I think a great example of someone who does this everyday is my mother. She lives at her own pace, admiring all around her. You wouldn’t know unless you asked, but she does take in everything and finds joy in the simple moments of beauty that this world has to offer. You can actually find pieces of her world on her Instagram account @m.imee.

These pictures were right before the sun set over Dallas area. My outfit is inspired by the knee socks, as I try to incorporate them as much as I can. But I think the warmth of the setting sun was the star of these photos. It brings out the best in everyone.

Make sure not to miss the sunsets nowadays as the days are getting shorter!

 

xo Nicoco

Dressing Up for Yourself

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OOTD: Top – Target | Jeans – Forever 21 | Bag – Zara

 

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This is a blog of a girl who is learning to pick up the pieces in a world of shattered dreams. The skewed perspectives of what was once reality, but sadly only in the mind. Trying to figure out how to not feel empty with human interaction when the picture of it was so much more alive in her head. Interpreting what it means to express oneself in a decent manner. Finding happiness in the smallest of actions, meaning in the most fleeting of moments, and understanding behind other’s actions as well as oneself.

It’s hard to find meaning in a life you don’t enjoy. It takes a lot of discipline to change it and steer it towards something you do like. Finding those pockets of escapism helps along the way. One of the things that keeps me going is trying to be the best version of myself. Trying to keep up with health while still enjoying myself, wearing outfits that make me feel confident without breaking the bank, and continuously finding the best beauty products to help my skin and hair.

Work is one of those unavoidable situations where it’s hard to find motivation to dress nicely. But I’ve found that if you let yourself go at work and don’t at least dress up for yourself, your attitude will follow. You will feel less than what you are. You will perform less than your potential. Your confidence is more likely to sway and start a spiral of depression. It sounds silly, but dressing up for yourself is important. You have to make yourself understand that you are worth it, you are successful, and you deserve to show up looking the best that you are.

It doesn’t have to be the most expensive outfit, or the most done-up makeup. But what it does have to be is genuinely what makes you happy, within dress code of course. I see a lot of offices going to a casual office dress code, and so many women letting themselves wear just a printed t-shirt. If you work in an office, don’t lose yourself in the routine. Take time to take care of yourself. Take time to treat yourself. And most of all, don’t let it take away your confidence.

 

Nicoco

PS. For a limited time, Forever 21 is having their 50% off winter sale! It’s ending in 3 days, so shop early to get the best deals!
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