1. Money is actually really important.
The world always promotes the philosophy that money is “not important” or that money equals greed. And when you’re younger, you might think you won’t care so much about money anyway when you’re an adult.
Suddenly, you’re 22 years old, paying $600 in rent, on top of paying a car payment, student loans, and scavenging for food as you were in college. Money is important. Gaining the ability to know how to acquire more of it is also important to your well being. The more you have, the more you can give. You might not be able to spare a dollar to a homeless person when you’re drowning in debt, but when you have abundance, you can freely give.
2. You will most likely not have your sh*t together yet, and you won’t know exactly who you are, even when you are in your adult years.
When you’re a teen, you think you are going through growing pains. You think you are having trouble understanding who you are. And you tend to imagine you will be living an organized and incident life when you hit 25. But in reality, most of the self discovery unravels more into your twenties, and beyond. You will understand that there is no such thing as having the perfect life; you will always be failing, learning, and trying to understand life. When you get older, you just have to accept this and embrace the fact that life is full of surprises.
3. You should learn cooking in your teenage years.
We always avoid doing things that are done for us already. Parents usually force kids to clean, so they learn how to clean, but not enough grow into adulthood knowing how to make an omelette. Girls and boys should know how to cook. Learning what goes into you food and how it’s prepared is a huge part about understanding your health. It might not seem important when mom is cooking dinner for you, but when you live on our own and you end up either eating out or eating packaged foods everyday, your health and mood will suffer.
Learning to cook at an early age builds independence and confidence. It will save so many problems from happening. It can prevent you from having health problems, prevent you from wasting money, and also can prevent you from starving!
4. Breakfast is actually really vital for the rest of the day.
High school breakfast usually consists of a granola bar, or a pastry, or nothing at all. And you can pull this off when you’re young with a faster metabolism and higher energy, but when you hit your twenties, it really starts to affect your whole day when you skip breakfast. You feel lethargic and grumpy.
The solution is to slowly form a habit of eating a nutritious breakfast. Drink a whole glass of room temperature water right when you wake up, and then when you eat, eat something nutritious, like oatmeal, fruit, a croissant, eggs, soup, or a green smoothie. Don’t eat a pastry alone; your insulin will spike and you will feel hungry and tired in about an hour after eating. You can develop eating habits that could create diabetes or prevent it, based on what you eat for breakfast.
5. There are depths of emotion you never knew possible.
You may think you’ve already felt the most pain you can feel, or that you’ve fallen in love. And sometimes it’s true. But most of the time, we underestimate the unknown. There are so many of the best moments in your life that haven’t happened. So many depths of emotion induced by experiences that you cannot even imagine. And although this also includes the sadness and anger, it’s extraordinary to realize that life has got even more in store for you.
6. Little annoyances do not need to impact your life if you don’t let them
If you give energy to things that annoy you, they become a problem. When you’re younger, sometimes you aren’t sure what’s important, and you can easily get caught up in things that don’t matter. Other’s opinions, social pressures, and trying to be “good.” It’s extremely hard to ignore because you want to feel important, loved and accepted.
It’s still a struggle when you get older, but you tend to finally just start not caring as much, but only because it’s tiring. “You cannot please everyone; you are not Nutella.”
7. Innovation is much more important than simply getting a degree
It’s definitely a good step forward to go to college for a degree in something that you can invest your time in and still love at the end of the day. But it’s not the only path. When you are a teen, you are forced to make these huge decisions about the path for the rest of your life, and there are definitely certain paths you are pushed into. High school prepares you for college, and nowadays, many do attend college right after high school.
But if you are not sure about what you want to do, take a year off. Let your mind wander. Ideas are the money makers these days. If you have a great idea, run with it. You are young enough to fail over and over and have minimal losses. Don’t go to college just because your parents want you to go; go only if you feel it’s what you want to do. And if you’re not sure, don’t rush into it.
8. Sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do to make it through, and you can’t think too much about it.
Mom and dad usually will help you do something if you cannot, or if you really refuse to do it. For example, how many times does your father end up doing your taxes for you just because it’s easier to simply file them instead of nagging you to do it and teach you while you complain. Same goes for cooking and doing laundry!
As you get older, you’ll realize that sometimes it’s easier to just do it and get through it rather than procrastinate. The best way to tackle this is to just do it and not to think too much about it. If you think, you will give up before you start.
9. People are so much more complex than they might seem
Everyone has their own story they are living, and we will never fully understand each of them unless we lived in their worlds. It’s good to be aware of this when you are going through the world on your own, interacting with others. Sometimes we meet people at the worst times and days and we assume this is their personality. Understanding and being aware of other’s stories will help you understand that just because someone might have wronged you does not necessarily have anything to do with you. It might have been their own problem.
You will meet so many interesting people in this world, some who you will fall in love with, some who you will click with instantly, and some who you will continuously clash with, and even some who will do a little of both in your relationship. Just know that each has a story and every person is worth giving chance.
10. It’s so much easier to consolidate your belongings are live minimalist
A typical teenage room has items sprawled all over the floor, bed, and desk. Piles of clothing, boxes of paper, old toys from when they were a child, and many other useless things just cluttering the room. And they wonder why their mind is always racing and distracted!
It becomes apparent that life is better lived simple as you move out of your parents’ house and have to find your own place. Want minimal messes? How about owning minimal belongings! Coordinate your outfits do you can easily mix and match.
11. The world is a messed up place, but people in general only become messed up from their environments, not because they are naturally bad people.
We all are born with innocence. Piggy-backing on number 9, everyone has their own story. Some are less fortunate, and while circumstances really don’t define a person, but they do bring out responses that might otherwise be hidden. For example, a person who is born into wealth and a good family may never see the ugly side of themselves who would otherwise be apparent if they had been born in an unsafe environment.
It might be optimistic, but giving people a chance to prove their true character is the only way to understand how people work in different situations. Sometimes as children we see the adult life as a messed up world. And it is, but it’s all in perspective.
12. Appreciate the little things; for someday you will find that the little things were actually the big things.
You want to grow up so quick when you’re young. Teens always want the freedom from their guardians so they can do whatever they want. They never dwell on the other side of it – the side where all responsibility falls on them and they have to suddenly take on everyday tasks they didn’t even know existed.
So when you’re free and being taken care of by your parents, appreciate it as much as you can! Don’t try to act older when you’re never going to be younger. Spend as much time as you can with family and friends. Cherish your high school days. And relax. The one thing that’s always unnecessary is stress.
13. If it won’t matter to you in six months, don’t waste your time worrying about it now.
On the topic of stress, we tend to think every problem is a big deal when we are younger. Even into our adult years we do this! But if the problem you are worrying about will most likely not have an impact on your life six months from now, don’t even bother giving it any time or thought. Worried about a speech you have for English class? Of course, it is natural to worry. One thing you can be happy about is that in six months, if you happened to mess up the speech, nobody will remember that you did.
Students often worry about grades, and yes, that will impact life six months from now. Try to focus on what you like about the subject rather than how you will ever learn that amount of information for the tests. But a lot of students also worry about relationships – and honestly, high school relationships usually don’t have the resources (having freedom from parents, living together, etc.) to be serious, so don’t take them too seriously (putting it above your future and grades).
14. Don’t incorporate coffee into your morning routine; it will rule you for life.
Coffee is very photogenic. And delicious. But to be honest, the addiction to caffeine will rule you into your adult years. It’s extremely hard to break this habit once you start. So when you’re in middle school or high school, try to make other habits. Drinking green tea rather than coffee is a great substitute, as green tea has many health benefits. But seriously, just don’t start with the coffee. Coffee is meant to be a once-in-a-while thing.
15. Your health will not always be in good condition; preventing is so much better than treating, so start when you’re young.
You know the junk food that you’re afraid will impact your life as an adult but you still eat it now since you have a high metabolism? Stop the cycle now. Add more healthy changes to your lifestyle while you are young, and you might just be able to avoid the college “freshman fifteen.” Learning about your food at an early age will help you be able to make decisions as an adult when you are at the grocery store buying your own ingredients. Understand the food labels and understand what your body needs. There are so many books and videos online regarding this topic, so information is readily available to learn now. Take care of your eyesight and your teeth as well. Anything you can prevent will save you so much trouble as an adult (especially when you start paying your own medical expenses!).
16. Confidence makes the difference.
It will get better. Right now you might feel insecure in how you look or what you are doing, but it will get better. People will become more mature about hiding their judgments about others, and as you get older, you will start to understand that everyone else is so wrapped up in their own lives that the way you look or the things they do are only a fleeting moment in their lives. And for the people you have with you who are important to you, they are with you for a reason – they already accept you for who you are! Don’t worry so much about confidence, it will come for you at the right time in your life. It’s always seems like the hardest thing to achieve, but in reality there is no one way to gain more confidence and self-esteem. It comes with maturity, experiences, and sometimes just randomly. You will find that someday, you won’t care about certain things and you won’t be scared to boldly be yourself anymore. And that’s the best feeling in the world.
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